You are You

Today, I am going to indulge in one of my small obsessions: the Myers Briggs Typology Index, more commonly called MBTI or just personality testing. You may have heard of it; it’s the one with the four funky letters: E (extroversion) or I (introversion); N (iNtuition) or S (sensing); F (feeling) or T (thinking); J (judging) or P (perceiving).

Contrary to popular belief, you do not determine your type by deciding if you’re an E or an I, an N or an S, etc. No, there are these things called functions, based on the four middle letters, that basically explain how you greet the world. There’s not just iNtuition; you can introvert it or extrovert it. And that happens with Sensing, Feeling, and Thinking. Your personality type has an order of functions, with the dominant one being the primary one you use. E/I and J/P orders what order they come in. If you’re an extrovert, your dominant function will be extroverted (expressed). If you’re an introvert, your dominant function will be introverted (internal). EJ’s and IP’s share a pattern, and EP’s and IJ’s share a different pattern. What that means is that ESFJ is not the more orderly version of the ESFP; their functions are completely different! Here’s a really basic overview of the types. I will confess I’m not expert on this, and I still get confused deciding between Te and Ti (I’m best at determining Fe and Fi, because they are what finally helped me figure out the difference between INFP, my Dad’s type, and INFJ, my type). Image

Now, I know a lot of people think this whole typology stuff is a lot of silly nonsense. And I agree that we as people are waaaaay more complex and can’t really be defined as one of only 16 groups. But I think it does have its uses. It helps us see some of our weaker areas, and opens our eyes to parts of our personality that we hadn’t thought about before.

And for those of us in the rarer types, it helps us see that we’re not alone. It’s actually really kind of weird, because a lot of times I connected to characters in books that have the same type as me, and I didn’t realize it until after I learned about MBTI. And then I say, “OH. That’s why I had such an affinity for that character.” And then I go onto INFJ-tumblr posts and say, “OHMYGOSH THAT’S SO ME.” So, I appreciate it because I know there are finally others like me out there. 

In conclusion: here is a nice little overview of the types. And there are charts like this for pretty much any fandom you can think of, plus funny things like MBTI types saying “Sorry, you have to die.” It’s very amusing. If you know your personality type already or end up becoming as obsessed with this as I am (sorry), comment what you are! 

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 But never forget that you are an individual, way more beautiful and complex to be completely defined by these types. As Dr. Seuss said, “Today, you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.” 

Have a lovely day and stay warm!

Epylle Spydre

 

The Eye of the Beholder

Recently, I was thinking. What a surprise… Anyway, you know how in English, they teach you about different ways to categorize characters? They can be round or flat, static or dynamic (I don’t really know how to make that sentence look right grammatically; it either ends up with too many coordinating conjunctions or too many commas. Sorry if it’s weird). But yeah, I was thinking about round characters vs. flat characters. Round characters are considered complex; you can generally use more than 2 or 3 adjectives to describe their personality. Conversely, flat characters are considered simple, with only a very small collection of adjectives to describe them.

And the thought crossed my mind, Is anybody truly flat, or is it just perception that makes them flat? You have to admit, it’s a pretty legitimate question. At least half of the characters that we give the “Flat” Label to probably aren’t actually flat. I mean, there are shallow people, but surely they have complexities to them. And when it comes to writing, characterization is completely in the hands of the writer. And if their narrator doesn’t like another character, that character may come across as simple and boring when in reality, they aren’t.

And what if we do that to other people? We’ve been taught that first impressions are often wrong, but that first impression stays with us, at least on a subconscious level. And we make judgments about people before we truly understand them. Voila! Flat people! Or, should I say, falsely labeled flat people who are actually more complicated. But that was too long; it would have detracted from the point. 

So, are there not any truly flat people in the world? I don’t think there are. Then again, I tend to be hope for the best, especially when it comes to people. That’s ‘cause I’m an INFJ. Ooh, personality types! Now that’s an interesting piece to consider when it comes to flatness vs. roundness. I’m actually a little obsessed with personality types, even though I know they don’t truly define people. But it’s interesting, because most people fit into at least one personality type, but everybody has their own experiences and emotions that make them a little different

We’ve all heard that beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. But the truth of the matter is, the eye of the beholder has a lot more power. 

Have a wonderful afternoon,

Epylle Spydre

Where Disney Went Wrong

Okay, I’ve got a confession to make. I have just been choosing random topics and writing about them, not caring about what people would want to read. I realized that I’ve been getting more pleasure from my stats page than from my actual posts. So, I’ve decided to write something that I will enjoy, and hopefully you’ll enjoy as well.

I feel like ranting. It’s really quite fun, at least on my side it is. Okay, so I’m listening to Disney songs, trying to figure out what to write, and the answer suddenly hits me: I’m listening to Disney songs. I’m gonna rant about Disney!! It’s not Disney that is so bad, there’s just one thing that really bothers me: love at first sight. So, in actuality, I’m not ranting about Disney, I’m ranting about love at first sight. Though, Beauty and the Beast breaks away from that, having a girl fall in love with a horrifying, ugly beast with a beautiful heart. Good job, Disney. Now fix the others.

Love at first sight is so dumb. Sometimes, it’s actually legit, which is really cool, but the love at first sight in Disney movies and well, practically any other movie, is stupid. Fall in love with a personality, not a face, people! Seriously, people say all the time, “He’s soooooo hot!!” or “Just look at that body” or, here’s my favorite, “Every guy dreams of finding a girl who looks like you.” (line from Legally Blonde the Musical, more really good music, listen to it!) It is true, half the time, people are just saying that, and they’re not really “in love” with that person, but still. And I’m not going to be a hypocrite, claiming I don’t notice when there are attractive people around, but still. I’m not gonna go all dewy eyes on some dude just ‘cause I think he’s cute.

Seriously, our culture puts too much store into appearances. Actually, I think most cultures do that. It’s just a human thing to do: to love those that are smart, strong, or beautiful. And me talking about this on my blog is not going to change it at all, because it’s just how human nature works. Sorry, guys. “I am ashamed” (Jacques from Finding Nemo, I really do allude a lot of movies in these posts, don’t I? It’s really harder not to make references when you’re listening to Disney). Okay, but aside the fact that human nature loves those who are beautiful, our culture still puts too much store into appearances. Girls have to be bone-thin, suuuuper tan, with faces so perfect you’re not sure if they’re real or not. And guys have it bad too, though it’s not as obvious. Guys have to be well-built, with nice arms and abs. The tall, lanky ones just don’t make it on the covers of magazines, unless their face is just gorgeous. It’s sad. WHO SAYS BEAUTY CAN BE JUDGED FROM THE OUTSIDE???? I just don’t get it. Oh, and speaking of magazines, I heard a story on the radio about some girl who petitioned Seventeen magazine to put real girls in the magazine and succeeded! Isn’t that cool? Stories like that just make me happy.

But back to my original idea. Love at first sight is dumb. Beauty isn’t skin-deep, it’s based on personality. I don’t love my friends because they’re physically beautiful but because they have amazing hearts. As a friend of mine once said, physical beauty can be taken away from you. Personality can’t be taken away from you, and it depends on you to make a decision whether it’s beautiful or not.  And I mean, sometimes love at first sight actually happens, like with some dude from the band, The Afters (listen to them too!), but I don’t know which one it is. I’m totally cool with real love at first sight (I’m a hopeless romantic, for future reference), it’s just infatuation with a face that annoys me. Alas, my ranting doesn’t really do much except amuse the few people who will read this. Oh well.

Epylle Spydre