Greetings! Wherever you are going to school, I hope you feel welcome there already. You may have already moved in, or you may have yet to move in. But I wanted to write this to you to give you some of my advice.
Congratulations on getting through the craziness of high school and the college application process (also know that I am not trying to exclude those of you who aren’t going to college–most of this will apply to you as well). Now you’re starting this new step in your life, and I’m sure you’re excited and nervous and twenty million other emotions all at once. There are many things I could talk about in this post. I could give you a whole list of advice just like all the other articles you might find here on the internet. But I only really want to talk about one thing.
Most of your high school life was figured out for you. You got to choose your electives and whether you took AP or honors or IB or what. You got to choose your extracurriculars, but it was still mostly handed to you. But now, now is so different. You’re moving away from your family; you’re making a new life for yourself; you’re figuring out what classes you want to take and when and how to make them all work together whilst praying that they don’t fill up before you can register for them. You may be trying to get a job or investigating all of the hundreds of organizations you can join. It’s a lot. And you are finally in the position where you get to decide it all for yourself. The possibilities are endless, and you may discover that you have way too many interests to be able to adequately quench them all. And that’s okay.
You may even discover that what you thought you were interested in is taking second place to some newer, bigger interest. You may have come into college knowing you were going to be a government major on the track to law school and find out that Asian and Middle Eastern Studies is way cooler. And that can be kind of freaky. Let me be the first to tell you: it is completely normal to have existential crises like this in this period of your life. In fact, it will probably happen to you. It’s okay. It’s normal. Your life is not over now that you’re changing your mind.
It’s also okay to have no clue what you’re interested in and what you want to do with your life. As a culture, we like to force everyone to have that 5 or 10 year plan. We are asked what we want to do when we grow up as little, little kids, and we never stop hearing that question. It’s really quite ridiculous. We can’t plan how our life is going to end up. And it’s crazy that we make ourselves even more stressed by obsessing about the future. We have enough stress as it is; we don’t need to make it worse.
So you may not have started questioning your life plans yet, but you probably will. And you will be okay. Know that you don’t need to know your future career, your major, or even what classes you are taking this semester to have worth. You don’t need all that to make a difference in the world. Ask questions. Try new things. Take time to analyze yourself and reflect on your life. Remember that everyone around you is in the exact same boat, so be kind. Smile at random strangers. Give thanks where thanks is due. Own your mistakes because you will make them. Work hard. And enjoy life. Today is the only August 21st of 2015 you’ll ever get, so make the most of it. Good luck to you. I really believe in you.
With all my love,
Brianna “Epylle Spydre”
p.s. This is technically written to incoming freshmen, but it’s really for anyone. Enjoy!